Ok, so right now I'm almost finished my first year of university. I'm living at home and going to the undergrad school in my town. It's not a great school, but it's not terrible. But the thing is that I really didn't enjoy my first year...and isn't university about meeting new friends, having new experiences, and everything? I didn't have any of that. I just hung out with people I already knew. I didn't feel like I got the whole university experience.
So I'm considering transfering to a university that is 3 hours away from my home. Money is not a problem, my parents have been saving for schooling since I was born! And this university would give me a better academic experience and I would likely have a better chance of getting into a better grad school. However, I'm not sure if I'm ready to leave home. My twin sister is staying here, and my dog and my parents are here. I'm not sure if I'm ready to leave them and go off on my own. I know I can visit, but when I think of everything that I will be leaving, I get really sad.
Has anyone here moved away and lived in residence? What was it like? Is it easier than you thought, moving away from home? Thanks
Definitely go for it. As harsh as this is going to sound, at some point you're going to have to move and live by yourself. So why not start being a bit independent now? You won't be completely alone, as you'll make new friends and dorm buddies and whatnot.
I don't have a twin, but I imagine you guys are pretty close, so that could be a bit difficult to deal with.
But don't worry, 3 hours isn't even that much! My uncle went to college about 18 hours away in Montana, and next year my brother is most likely going about 6 hours away in Massachusetts.
Also, if you're worried about being homesick, think of all the technology you can use to keep in touch. Emails, webcams, cell phones, etc are all there.
So I say go for it! And if it's a better school than that's even better. To be honest I'm completely the opposite. I have 3 years until college and I'm psyched. I want to go really far away, like Arizona or something.
I say go for it. Yes its hard at the beginning, you miss your family and everything is new and different. My first week I havent spoke to anyone at lectures, it was sooo hard, always alone. But then things became soooo much better, you just have to start speaking to people. My uni is about 3hrs from my home and I go home whenever I want. If I miss my family I just pack few things and in 3hrs I'm home. But this is the best time of my life. New friends, new places. I'm on my 3rd year and I go home approximately every month for a weekend. I think that Ill never go back home I just love this city and people I met on uni are far more interesting then my high school friends, and I get along with them much better. I think I would be really sad if I didnt move away. So go for it, you'll see you'll love it.
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How old are you?
I'd say you should try it if you don't feel well in your current situation....it can be hard at the beginning, but as soon as you meet new people you rather enjoy it...the day will come anyways tat you should leave home and it seems that this is a good chance to do so...I never thought it would be that easy for me to leave home before I left it....but it was definitely the right decision...I love coming back home, but I can't imagine moving home again (I will do it though in some weeks, but only for a short time)
I'm going through the exact same thing as you, i feel like i'm missing out and i need to meet new people!
My uni is a bit far from home and the state of public transport in my country doesn't make commuting to and from uni easy, because of that i'm seriously considering moving away but i don't think i can make myself leave my family anytime soon, i just want to finish my first years before i decide what i should do.
If money isn't an issue for you, go for it. You may not get another chance quite like it, and it will be good for you. You'll learn a lot about yourself, and how to take care of yourself and stand on your own two feet so to speak. You'll get to see the world from a different angle and figure out your own identity. And frankly, the second year of university is when it starts to get tough and you have a lot less spare time, so it may mean you won't have to deal with as many distractions.
I moved to another country for my second year out of highschool. I have some major issues with the program I took there, but I don't regret the move itself one bit. Separated from all your traditional supports you figure out a lot about who you yourself are in a hurray. And I didn't even have internet where I went. You will have internet, and skype, and you're in driving distance so you can come home most weekends. It takes about 2 months and a half-dozen identity crisis to adjust to the new environment, after that you`ll probably love it there.
Now, if money is an issue at all, you're better off living at home. University is no guarantee of any sort of decent paying job whatsoever anymore. Unless you will be in a co-op program that works out specific job placements in your field, there`s a good chance you could end up doing the same sort of service jobs that were available before you had a degree. The degree just means they will promote you into low-level management faster. And that means the extra debt could haunt you for most of the rest of your life. Living at home is definitely cheaper, and in this economic world you need all the financial breaks you can get.
"Troll sat alone on his seat of stone,
And munched and mumbled a bare old bone;
For many a year he had gnawed it near,
For meat was hard to come by.
Done by! Gum by!
In a cave in the hills he dwelt alone,
And meat was hard to come by.
Up came Tom with his big boots on.
Said he to Troll: 'Pray, what is yon?
For it looks like the shin o' my nuncle Tim,
As should be a-lyin' in graveyard.
This many a year has Tim been gone,
And I thought he were lyin' in graveyard.'
'My lad,' said Troll, 'this bone I stole.
But what be bones that lie in a hole?
Thy nuncle was dead as a lump o' lead,
Afore I found his shinbone.
He can spare a share for a poor old troll,
For he don't need his shinbone.'
Said Tom: 'I don't see why the likes o' thee
Without axin' leave should go makin' free
With the shank or the shin o' my father's kin;
So hand the old bone over!
Though dead he be, it belongs to he;
So hand the old bone over!'
'For a couple o' pins,' says Troll, and grins,
'I'll eat thee too, and gnaw thy shins.
A bit o' fresh meat will go down sweet!
I'll try my teeth on thee now.
Hee now! See now!
I'm tired o' gnawing old bones and skins;
I've a mind to dine on thee now.'
But just as he thought his dinner was caught,
He found his hands had hold of naught.
Before he could mind, Tom slipped behind
And gave him the boot to larn him.
Warn him! Darn him!
A bump o' the boot on the seat, Tom thought,
Would be the way to larn him.
But harder than stone is the flesh and bone
Of a troll that sits in the hills alone.
As well set your boot to the mountain's root,
For the seat of a troll don't feel it.
Peel it! Heal it!
Old Troll laughed, when he heard Tom groan,
And he knew his toes could feel it.
Tom's leg is game, since home he came,
And his bootless foot is lasting lame;
But Troll don't care, and he's still there
With the bone he boned from its owner.
Troll's old seat is still the same,
And the bone he boned from its owner!"
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I'm in my 6th semester of university work right now. I'm here in the same city that I've been my whole life. Unlike you, I never had a choice in going off; money has always been a struggle for us, and with my brother away for university, too, it's even more difficult.
Please. If you can, get away from home. You'll experience so much that I'm missing out on. Don't be like me.
I moved away for university and I've had a great time. I didn't like living at home very much so it was a very easy decision for me but I'm sure you'd be alright. As someone else said, you can always go home from time to time. I'd say go for it if the other university's better.
Go for it. I agree with what people said above and i feel the same. You'd make new friends or may be your best friends? I've been a homesick so i know how hard it is to adjust in a new environments when you've been pampered your whole life. It won't be easy but yes it will be a new experience and will help you to develop as a self dependent person but in the end you'd just admire yourself for taking that decision and you'd love this experience tbh.