I need some advice!!

[Technicolor Sparks]

Ok, so right now I'm almost finished my first year of university. I'm living at home and going to the undergrad school in my town. It's not a great school, but it's not terrible. But the thing is that I really didn't enjoy my first year...and isn't university about meeting new friends, having new experiences, and everything? I didn't have any of that. I just hung out with people I already knew. I didn't feel like I got the whole university experience.

So I'm considering transfering to a university that is 3 hours away from my home. Money is not a problem, my parents have been saving for schooling since I was born! And this university would give me a better academic experience and I would likely have a better chance of getting into a better grad school. However, I'm not sure if I'm ready to leave home. My twin sister is staying here, and my dog and my parents are here. I'm not sure if I'm ready to leave them and go off on my own. I know I can visit, but when I think of everything that I will be leaving, I get really sad.

Has anyone here moved away and lived in residence? What was it like? Is it easier than you thought, moving away from home? Thanks

[an angel]

I'm in the exact same boat as you, except I'm almost finished with second year. I probably won't transfer though because I feel like it's too late for me now. :/

I'd go for it if I were you, it'd be a good experience. I think you'll feel a lot less homesick once you make friends there and adjust to being in a new school and new city.

[Megalomania]

Definitely go for it. As harsh as this is going to sound, at some point you're going to have to move and live by yourself. So why not start being a bit independent now? You won't be completely alone, as you'll make new friends and dorm buddies and whatnot.

I don't have a twin, but I imagine you guys are pretty close, so that could be a bit difficult to deal with.

But don't worry, 3 hours isn't even that much! My uncle went to college about 18 hours away in Montana, and next year my brother is most likely going about 6 hours away in Massachusetts.

Also, if you're worried about being homesick, think of all the technology you can use to keep in touch. Emails, webcams, cell phones, etc are all there.

So I say go for it! And if it's a better school than that's even better. To be honest I'm completely the opposite. I have 3 years until college and I'm psyched. I want to go really far away, like Arizona or something.

Good luck with whichever you choose!

[66]

Go for it. I regret not doing it when I was younger. You'll be a-ok, and it sounds like a great opportunity for you!

[lndnsky]

I say go for it. Yes its hard at the beginning, you miss your family and everything is new and different. My first week I havent spoke to anyone at lectures, it was sooo hard, always alone. But then things became soooo much better, you just have to start speaking to people. My uni is about 3hrs from my home and I go home whenever I want. If I miss my family I just pack few things and in 3hrs I'm home. But this is the best time of my life. New friends, new places. I'm on my 3rd year and I go home approximately every month for a weekend. I think that Ill never go back home I just love this city and people I met on uni are far more interesting then my high school friends, and I get along with them much better. I think I would be really sad if I didnt move away. So go for it, you'll see you'll love it.

[NumbersGirl]

Well, my best advice would be to look at it like this:

Five years from now, which scenario would you regret more? Not going away to school and wishing you had, or going away to school and wishing you hadn't?

[Gitta Rensolo]

How old are you?

I'd say you should try it if you don't feel well in your current situation....it can be hard at the beginning, but as soon as you meet new people you rather enjoy it...the day will come anyways tat you should leave home and it seems that this is a good chance to do so...I never thought it would be that easy for me to leave home before I left it....but it was definitely the right decision...I love coming back home, but I can't imagine moving home again (I will do it though in some weeks, but only for a short time)

[Braddock]

Try it and come home at weekends. If you don't like it then move back. It wouldn't be the end of the world. Missing out on the experiences of uni would be worse.

[ceader'schild]

I'm going through the exact same thing as you, i feel like i'm missing out and i need to meet new people!
My uni is a bit far from home and the state of public transport in my country doesn't make commuting to and from uni easy, because of that i'm seriously considering moving away but i don't think i can make myself leave my family anytime soon, i just want to finish my first years before i decide what i should do.

[Crests]

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[Space Cadet]

If money isn't an issue for you, go for it. You may not get another chance quite like it, and it will be good for you. You'll learn a lot about yourself, and how to take care of yourself and stand on your own two feet so to speak. You'll get to see the world from a different angle and figure out your own identity. And frankly, the second year of university is when it starts to get tough and you have a lot less spare time, so it may mean you won't have to deal with as many distractions.

I moved to another country for my second year out of highschool. I have some major issues with the program I took there, but I don't regret the move itself one bit. Separated from all your traditional supports you figure out a lot about who you yourself are in a hurray. And I didn't even have internet where I went. You will have internet, and skype, and you're in driving distance so you can come home most weekends. It takes about 2 months and a half-dozen identity crisis to adjust to the new environment, after that you`ll probably love it there.

Now, if money is an issue at all, you're better off living at home. University is no guarantee of any sort of decent paying job whatsoever anymore. Unless you will be in a co-op program that works out specific job placements in your field, there`s a good chance you could end up doing the same sort of service jobs that were available before you had a degree. The degree just means they will promote you into low-level management faster. And that means the extra debt could haunt you for most of the rest of your life. Living at home is definitely cheaper, and in this economic world you need all the financial breaks you can get.

[Violet]

I'm in my 6th semester of university work right now. I'm here in the same city that I've been my whole life. Unlike you, I never had a choice in going off; money has always been a struggle for us, and with my brother away for university, too, it's even more difficult.

Please. If you can, get away from home. You'll experience so much that I'm missing out on. Don't be like me.

[Crests]

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[Petit Prince]

I moved away for university and I've had a great time. I didn't like living at home very much so it was a very easy decision for me but I'm sure you'd be alright. As someone else said, you can always go home from time to time. I'd say go for it if the other university's better.

[piyush.exquisite]

Go for it. I agree with what people said above and i feel the same. You'd make new friends or may be your best friends? I've been a homesick so i know how hard it is to adjust in a new environments when you've been pampered your whole life. It won't be easy but yes it will be a new experience and will help you to develop as a self dependent person but in the end you'd just admire yourself for taking that decision and you'd love this experience tbh.