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[Tash]

May 24, 2012 - submitted by Gemma, Denmark

Q. Dearest Oracle,

I currently live in Denmark, and have been strongly considering going to Roskilde Festival, where Guy's secondary band, Apparatjik, will be performing. But then I checked the tour dates of Coldplay's tour, and I can see that the boys will be playing in America for nearly the whole duration of the festival, with an exception of the 7th of July.

My question is; Will Guy be flying to Denmark to perform onstage with Jonas Bjerre & Magne Furuholmen, or will he not be onstage, whatsoever? Thanks (:


The Oracle replies:

I can see why it would look possible because of the 7th July being a non-show day but as the band will be in Philadelphia on the 6th and due in Washington on the 8th, the flight times and time zone changes would make it too much of a risk to take.
I'd go as far to say it's (almost) impossible.

[Tash]

May 24, 2012 - submitted by Christy, United Kingdom

Q. Hi Oracle, I was just wondering if Coldplay are playing the Capital Summertime Ball before or after the Mylo show the same night?


The Oracle replies:

They'll be playing Wembley first and their own show will be as scheduled, so no changes there.

[Tash]

May 24, 2012 - submitted by Fokke, Switzerland

Q. Dear Oracle,

Like yourself, I love the song What If from X&Y. I don't think they ever played this song live. Do you know why?
I will go to to concert in Zurich this Saturday and obviously hope that you can influence the guys to put this on their playlist :-)

Best regards from a Dutch guy in Switzerland.


The Oracle replies:

It was played during the Twisted Logic tour back in 2005 but it wasn't a permanent fixture on the setlist.
Last December it reappeared, much to my delight, on the European leg of the tour after a lengthy hiatus.

[TracieMorgan]

Just to (re) point out that not all fans are like us and hang around the forum and know EVERYTHING about the band. Not everyone is as in touch with how the band operate in terms of their live shows. And as for team Oracle, I think it's great that a fan's personal life is treated like it matters by someone tied to the band, but if I don't want to know about it, I just don't read it.

(This isn't meant to offend anyone, but I see so much complaining about something that's here for us that doesn't have to be. A little gratitude never hurt anyone.)

[Tash]

May 25, 2012 - submitted by The Oracle, United Kingdom

Q. WHO'D LIKE TO JOIN TEAM ORACLE?
When I answer questions of a personal nature, Coldplay.com readers often get in touch with their own thoughts. So, we now have a weekly feature, Team Oracle, whereby each Friday (with the question asker's permission) we open up a question to all of you to answer too. Then, the following Friday, I'll post a selection of the best answers, alongside my own reply.
ANYONE can join in so, if you'd like to, please email your response to the following question, in no more than 250 words, to theoracle@coldplay.com before midnight Thursday 31st May.

Last year I met a guy at school. He's nice to talk to and has a great sense of humor. Thing is that he has a girlfriend. I started to like him and I have no idea why, but he was feeling the same towards me. After a couple of months spent to just get to know each other he kissed me and from that moment we were really close. A couple months ago I told him that I couldn't do this, because he is not leaving his girlfriend for me, which I understand. They have a history and he only knew me for 2 months. But after that I gave in again and we were having a good time. But what now? Apparently he really likes me. I know because he told me, and we're always pretty honest to each other. I never lied or held something back for him, which is pretty special. But on the other hand am I still not good enough to leave his girlfriend. Don't get me wrong. He hates this situation as well, and he is a very nice guy. I actually think I love him but I would never tell him. At least not when he's still in a relationship with her. I know that I should be the smart girl and stop it. I tried. Really. I love him and because he is being so sweet to me I am having a very hard time just trying to stop it. Please tell me what I should do, because I don't think this situation should stay. Rose, The Netherlands.

Look forward to seeing your replies.
The Oracle


The Oracle replies:

Please email your replies to theoracle@coldplay.com

[Tash]

May 25, 2012 - submitted by Gavin, United States of America

Q. TEAM ORACLE QUESTION #72
I've been really depressed lately. I'm 20 years old and had my first kiss, and subsequent kisses thereafter for almost 2 months with a girl. Thing is, she really really liked me, but the entire time we were together, I could never figure out if I liked her or not. In fact, the first time she asked me to kiss her, I said no. I just wish I would have stopped it there, but I tried the relationship even though I wasn't sure about her. When it ended peacefully, I was fine. But now a couple weeks later I think back on it and regret everything. I feel like I gave a part of myself away for someone that I don't really like. It was my first time living at college away from home, so it was a stressful period, but that shouldn't be an excuse for seeking physical comfort from someone I wasn't sure about. Now I can't stop thinking about it and am truly depressed.


The Oracle replies:

Gavin, it's truly admirable you care so much about your well-being in matters of the heart but I think life is a journey fraught with choices, dilemmas and challenges to face. Sometimes it's hindsight that makes us see that we made a bad decision. We haven't got a crystal ball to help us so we have to take it on the chin and put it down to experience.
I know we can't go back and change the past but we can learn and move forward from it. You now know that you're not prepared to give of yourself unless you really have feelings for a person.
It sounds like you were under a certain amount of pressure not just from your new situation and surroundings, but the girl in question.
Don't worry that if when you meet the right girl your regrets rear their head again, you don't need to punish yourself.
From what you have said, you have handled it well in my opinion. It ended amicably and you've nothing to feel bad about. I'm sure we all have regrets of some kind. My Mum used to have a phrase that drove me mad when I was young but I now see the sense in it: "It's all part & parcel of growing up".
Over to you.

Sigh, physical affection strikes again. This is something that happens to people who don't always see the results of their actions straight away. When distracted by things like work, school, or other activities that raise your stress level, you unconsciously try to find a way to make yourself feel better, stronger, and happier. In your case, making a relationship. This is not drastically as much your fault as you may think, by a long shot. Having never gone down that far in a relationship before, I am certain you weren't entirely sure what you were supposed to feel. Everyone feels that need for relation. Don't pull yourself so down and ruminate in grief over it. Just feel glad you got off at peaceful terms, not everyone has that kind of luck. Now though, you have the experience, so be watching yourself a little bit closer from now on. Make sure you don't go so far down a road that the way back is indecipherable. But remember, Everything's Not Lost (another great song!), you just need some time, meditation, and/or some rest and I promise you'll understand what you had done. And, hopefully, get into a relationship you do wish to stay in! Best of luck to you. Your friend, J.

The best thing you can do is be sincere with her and say that you're not sure, that you feel lonely away from home and she has to know that maybe you have no strong feelings for her and perhaps the loneliness brings you to accept kissing her and it's better that she knows the way you feel. Women do prefer the truth and if you open your heart to her she'll understand and give you more time and space to think about it. Luna.

You should stop thinking about her. If you didn't really like her that means you didn't really give part of yourself away. Natalie.

I used to be as deep and emotional as you are. I used to think carefully about every single move I made and its consequences. Now I decided to go with the flow. And you know why? Because I realized that by thinking too much about my actions was hurting me badly. I used to be a little bit like a philosopher, always looking for drama with myself it seemed. I used to be depressed too. So what I recommend you is... let it be. You did nothing wrong by kissing this girl. Don't look for cons cause there mustn't be any. I'm sure you just wanted to try something new. You were merely trying to find out if you liked her. And you realized that after all you didn't. As long as there's no one hurt here there's nothing to be worried about. So relax, chill, enjoy life as much as you can. Don't go back on the things you did. The past is done. From now on look at the present and choose what you wanna do. And never ever regret things cause you won't go back in time to undo it. Peace and love, Caro.

Even though you say you didn't like her at all, you decided to go out with her, which means a part of you might have been curious to see if you could like her, if you tried to like her. There's something in you that told you to give it a chance with her, whether you admit it or not - because you did. It's easy to feel regretful after a relationship that didn't work out, but I think it's important to remember that now you know. At least you gave it a try, so you won't have to worry about not even giving it a chance. If you really were not interested in her at all, then I think you're bound to feel a bit bad about the whole thing. Especially because then you'd not just thrown away your kisses, but also thrown away hers on someone that didn't even like her. You should have been honest with her from the beginning; and might just be feeling guilty now. I realize loneliness probably drove you to do it, but you can't take it back at this point. You can always learn from experiences and know that next time if you don't feel it, you shouldn't fake it. Hope you feel much better. Love, Darem.

Sometimes in life, we do things that we later on realise maybe we shouldn't. That's normal for everyone. The good thing about mistakes, though, is that you learn from them. Personally, I have this motto in life: "If you never try, you'll never know." (Yes, it's from Fix You). So, I think that it was good that you gave it a shot, instead of maybe one day thinking "what if". I hope that you can realise that if you don't make mistakes, life won't teach you any valuable lessons. You can't take back what has already happened, but you can stop it from haunting you forever. Just try and put it all behind you - if there is a will, there is a way! I wish you all the best. Medina.

Don't regret your decisions about this relationship for a second. There's no need to beat yourself up about being "sure" about starting a relationship with her. We can never be truly sure about relationships until we try our hand at it. If you never try, you will never know.
You are much better off seeing your feelings through in a relationship than leaving her behind and thinking about what could have been. Since you pursued it, be happy that you discovered your true feelings!
Stay positive about it and remember what you learned during this relationship so that you can make your next more comfortable. Warm regards, Blake.

Thanks for all your replies. Calling all readers, Team Oracle is open to any and everyone so if you fancy replying, click to read this week's question, and send us your answer.

[InvaderXyl42]

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Originally Posted by Tash;5304267
May 23, 2012 - submitted by Rachel, United States of America

Q. I was reading Will's response to the twitter questions for #coldplaylive. Will said that his favorite opening act for them was Arcade Fire. I was wondering for which tour and dates that Arcade Fire was the opening act. I absolutely love Arcade Fire and Coldplay! I wish I could've seen them together.


The Oracle replies:

Technically he didn't actually say that they were the opening act; he said they'd had the pleasure of sharing the same bill at festivals. I know that doesn't exactly answer the question of who his favourite band they've toured with is.

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I got so excited when I read this question

[Phoebeo]

^ Me too.

What festival was that? I would have loved to be there.

[Tash]

^ They both played Main Square Festival and Austin City Limits in 2011 but not on the same day.

edit: And Austin City Limits in 2005 (same day, 25 September) and Coachella in 2005 (not on the same day).

[LFDianne]

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Originally Posted by Tash;5307943
^ They both played Main Square Festival and Austin City Limits in 2011 but not on the same day.

edit: And Austin City Limits in 2005 (same day, 25 September) and Coachella in 2005 (not on the same day).

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Austin City Limits Festival in 2011. Coldplay headlined Friday night, Sept 16, and Arcade Fire headlined Sunday night, Sept 18.

[Tash]

May 28, 2012 - submitted by Michele, Italy

Q. Did the band enjoy the concert in Turin last week? I was in the crowd and I sang out loud all the songs (even A warning sign, which I love but I think was sung by me and few others in the stadium). Maybe the band had thought we was a shitty crowd in Italy and maybe we was, but I did my best to make the band feel that I love COLDPLAY MUSIC, from Parachutes to Mylo Xyloto, and a lot of other Italians do. So, please, can you tell me if we was worse than other gigs?

Thanks


The Oracle replies:

Au contraire Michele, you were a great crowd!
I also have it on good authority from Anchorman that Turin's crowd were far more lively than Nice's (sorry, France - you need to up your game!)

[Tash]

May 28, 2012 - submitted by Giulia, Italy

Q. Dear Oracle, I have two questions for you.
1. I read on internet (I don't remember where) that Guy was the Coldplay singer before Chris. Is this true? Didn't Chris joined Coldplay before Guy?

2. On Instagram, there is someone who's calling himself "officialcoldplay". It's a fake, isn't it?

Thank you,
an Italian coldplayer/xylobryte.

Ps: The concert in Turin was amazing!


The Oracle replies:

1. No, it's not true. Yes, Chris 'joined' Coldplay before Guy. Well, Chris didn't join as he started the band in the first place.
2. Yes, it is. There isn't an official Coldplay instagram account.

[Tash]

May 28, 2012 - submitted by Sarah, Switzerland

Q. Dear Oracle

I have some really nice shots from yesterday's show in Zurich and want to share them with you and all the fans. But how?

Love
Sarah


The Oracle replies:

You can share them by uploading them to our Live Transmissions section on this very website. Look forward to seeing them!

[Tash]

May 29, 2012 - submitted by Nathan, United Kingdom

Q. What's the chances of Politik being added to the playlist for tonight. Bring it on Coventry!!!!!


The Oracle replies:

Not a chance at all Nate - if I may call you that.
Will replied to the question in the recent twitter chat of why it's been dropped from the set and his response was, "To use a football analogy, it's played 10 seasons in a row and it needs a rest".

[Tash]

May 29, 2012 - submitted by Thomas, United Kingdom

Q. Hi Oracle,
I just watched the Hurts Like Heaven video from the European Stadiums (seeing them in Manchester on the 9th June) and noticed all the lasers. I was wondering, that with the stadiums being roofless, is there any problem with the lasers hitting low flying aircraft and such?
Thanks!


The Oracle replies:

That's a very good question Thomas and a subject I was talking about in detail last week in fact.
Lasers obviously do come with certain risks so there are stringent safety rules and regulations in place - they can't beam over a certain height if there's a risk to aviation. The same goes for beaming below the heads of the audience to protect them also. The lasers are all perfectly harmless at our shows.
Enjoy Manchester!