And now: do you easily make friends with others?

[Destrokk]

I find it difficult to make friends at first but easy for me to make best friends Which I think is good because I sort of filter through people I don´t like. Some people just befriend everybody and then just have their favorites but then you will have people talking to you a lot thinking that they are your best friend when they are not or you have to say hi to everybody because you know them sorta and I just find that annoying. And I remember that when I started middle school this girl wanted to be everybodys friend by being friendly and social and everything that everybody in this thread say that they lack and at the end everybody thought she was annoying and mostly everybody didn´t talk to her. I was nice to her and she became a friend of mine but she is annoying. So I don´t talk to her that often and she doesn´t talk to me all the time.
I think what I do has its down side, because after school I didn´t feel sad for leaving while everybody was crying (which made me feel like my heart was made of stone) I just didn´t care for them. My close friends can visit me and talk to me whenever they want and the rest were just acquaintances and I wont miss them.

Meeting friends after school is an interesting question, because there are so many people and you at some point have to socialize since you see them everyday. But there are usually always situations like that, like doing arens or work. I would love to make friends by traveling.


And I just made a big post without being ironic, sarcastic or mean

[Cyan Kat]

I've never had a best friend, not really just a large group of friends
When lots of people left last year, (only those staying to do A-Levels staying which is me), I was only really upset about one girl leaving we used to chat and have a laugh in classes all the time we never hung out and we didn't have all that much in common so i knew we wouldn't stay in touch but I can honestly say she was a genuine friend to me and we never fell out. I've just finally had the guts to leave the friend group I've hung out with for so long, well it's more split off now and there's one girl who i dislike and she is always favoured over me, though to be honest I don't think they ever really valued me as a friend looking back it just seems that so many of the good times are shadowed by the times they made me feel like crap and paranoid they were talking about me. I suck at making new friends, there are people that I admire and want to be friends with but I am so bad at making conversation and I just feel awkward. Hopefully I'll make new friends if I get to Uni.

[myxylivethelife]

I am generally good at making friends, but i'm quite skeptical of people form sites. but, this being a COLDPLAY site, im pretty sure that i can trust most all of you. I, too, find that i really only have a few true friends at my school.

[iccp]

i don't really make friends easily...it's something that i've always had trouble with. i never really had so many friends...just a few, but those few were pretty good ones...

[the scientist is dead]

I make friends so quickly, but I loose them eventually....and keep the good ones, so in the end I always have few great friends!

[rainplay]

I love people. Unless you're an idiot, then I don't. And making friends has always been easy for me. Keeping them? Not so much. But, as for best friends, I only have a little bit of those and would go crazy without them.

[Tnspieler1012]

I suck at friendship.

[iccp]

^ it happens sometimes

[myxylivethelife]

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Originally Posted by rainplay;5335239
I love people. Unless you're an idiot, then I don't. And making friends has always been easy for me. Keeping them? Not so much. But, as for best friends, I only have a little bit of those and would go crazy without them.

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same.

[Abracadabra]

I seem to be good at making friends, and I get the feeling that people I like like me. But at some point, when our relationship is quite more complex than acquaintance, I grow to really really like them, I mean the people I call friends, but they, and I mean every one of them, seem to be satisfied with just having me as someone to talk to and tell something funny, or interesting or smart. And I don't want just that, I want my feelings and regard for them returned in the same way. It's not that I'm trying to please them in order for them to love me, but this one-sided "friendships" really get me down. I would like to be someone else's best friend, I need to be needed. Friendship is both 'give and get', and mine lack the latter so much. It's like all of them already have their best friend with whom they share much more and they can't regard me with same feelings. None of them have got a clue, the faintest idea that I may want something more. Naturally it be awkward for me to tell them all this, they wouldn't understand and would probably say I'm making a big deal out of nothing. I wouldn't be surprised if some of them walked out on me, thinking "What creep have I been hanging out with". I'm only 21 and there's life unfolding before me,sure, but I have a feeling that true friendships, the ones I imagine, start very early in one's life and it's getting more and more difficult as the time goes on, mostly because many people start a family and are less likely to feel eager to engage themselves in making friendships at that point. I might be wrong, though. I hope I am.

[Arazmire]

I feel blessed to have been able to make so many friends over the last couple of years at my college. Really good friends too, not just drinkin' buddies ha! I am always surrounded by my friends and I never really get bored because we are all pretty active/adventurous people.

As far as the subject of obtaining these friendships, I honestly can't tell you that it was "easy" for me or even "hard", it just happened, there were some rough times between a few of us, but it all worked out.

My advice to make friends - GO TO COLLEGE/UNI STRAIGHT OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL and join a sorority/frat (if you like that kind of thing) and get out of the dorms as much as possible

[PrincessofChina]

I'm terribly awkward in the beginning, you really need to keep the conversation going.. I won't be able to, haha. But when I know somebody a bit better, it all comes easily

[coldlocked]

I'm very very VERY weird so it's hard for me to make friends besides the ones I have now. I grew up with most of these people and the others are from the other elementary school, and they're just about as weird as me...

So I seriously do not make friends easily. It takes me literally weeks to be considered a friend. I'm a complete utter lazy and annoying person in real life. And this is why I don't understand how I have friends, what more my best friend...

[ceader'schild]

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Originally Posted by Abracadabra;5411616
I seem to be good at making friends, and I get the feeling that people I like like me. But at some point, when our relationship is quite more complex than acquaintance, I grow to really really like them, I mean the people I call friends, but they, and I mean every one of them, seem to be satisfied with just having me as someone to talk to and tell something funny, or interesting or smart. And I don't want just that, I want my feelings and regard for them returned in the same way. It's not that I'm trying to please them in order for them to love me, but this one-sided "friendships" really get me down. I would like to be someone else's best friend, I need to be needed. Friendship is both 'give and get', and mine lack the latter so much. It's like all of them already have their best friend with whom they share much more and they can't regard me with same feelings. None of them have got a clue, the faintest idea that I may want something more. Naturally it be awkward for me to tell them all this, they wouldn't understand and would probably say I'm making a big deal out of nothing. I wouldn't be surprised if some of them walked out on me, thinking "What creep have I been hanging out with". I'm only 21 and there's life unfolding before me,sure, but I have a feeling that true friendships, the ones I imagine, start very early in one's life and it's getting more and more difficult as the time goes on, mostly because many people start a family and are less likely to feel eager to engage themselves in making friendships at that point. I might be wrong, though. I hope I am.

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This, basically. I always seem to like people a lot more than they like me.

Also i'm terribly awkward and shy, i almost never approach people first. So no, i don't make friends easily.

[Destrokk]

since i just started school..

i´m really awful and talking to people, i hate that because i´m a very outgoing person and fun but im too fucking shy this is annoying me