I don't know. Maybe it's also horrible to grow up and don't know how your parents were when they lived together, but I was also kinda shocked and glad when my threw my father out. I can't describe it but it wasn't working for a long long time. It was a relief for all of us. My father slept in the living-room for almost half an year anyway. And when my mother said she can't take it any longer he came to me and asked me what he had done to us.

my mother was so lovely because she wanted to discuss it alone with my father and didn't want to involve us.
Life just was easier. And then my father started to sue my mother for money. Well, what can I say. My mother also told me that it was already hard for her when my brother and I were just little children. She just didn't part then because she wanted us to be old enough to decide on our own if we want to go to our father or not. she didn't want to have that we would be urged to go to our father every second weekend.