Should I go to a nightclub? Advice needed!

[Technicolor Sparks]

Ok, so I have never been to a nightclub before, but a group of my friends here at school are renting a limo and going to a club tonight. When they asked me to go with them last week, I made up an excuse so that I wouldn't have to go. But now I'm starting to feel left out because everyone is so excited about it. This morning they were trying to convince me to cancel my (fake) plans, and I told them that I would think about it.

Well, I'm thinking about it and I just can't decide! I've been to one social at my university, and it wasn't very fun. Mind you, I went with only one friend and she is a bitch so it was bound to be a bad night. But she told me that I "seemed awkward", so now I'm terrified that I will be awkward if I go tonight.

I'm a terrible dancer, I could definitely be more attractive, and I'm so self-conscious that I know I'm going to be worried about seeming ugly and awkward all night. Also I'm prone to anxiety so it intensifies everything.

Anyways if you are still reading, could you give me some advice? Should I just try to overcome my fears and go? Or should I be safe and stay in my dorm tonight.

Thanks!

[chuck kottke]

YES!!
Just go have fun, you'll get better at dancing, so enjoy it! If you go with fun people, you'll have fun. :)

[MrLick]

Only if you have some lsd or acid to take before going.

I hate clubs, too noisy and too many idiots. Mostly because my voice is so quiet I yell as loud as I can and still no one hears me. And I don't like dancing to rap or techno shit. I'd rather ballroom dance or something like that. BUT you should go just so you can experience it and maybe you'll enjoy it, who knows. But you have to at least find out what it's like. And it's probably something your friends will want to do a lot.

[busybeeburns]

ahh do it while you have the chance, because when you're older you won't care for them. Or maybe that's just age and perspective talking...

[Technicolor Sparks]

I don't really drink alcohol and I don't really like the type of music they play in clubs, but I guess you're all right - I should probably go for the experience.

Aaah I'm super nervous now! :uhoh:

[MrLick]

And next time if you do hate it, you'll have an excuse not to go.

[James.]

Are all your friends experienced nightclub-goers? If they are then I can see how you would feel like a newbie, and probably won't have as much fun :\ However, if you have a friend who also hasn't been before then you would both be in the same boat so you wouldn't be alone at least.

[chuck kottke]

I don't really drink alcohol and I don't really like the type of music they play in clubs, but I guess you're all right - I should probably go for the experience.

Aaah I'm super nervous now! :uhoh:
It's a good release from feeling tense in life, it's invigorating! But if the music isn't to your liking, I can relate to that - but you could go and just enjoy the liveliness of it, enjoy the company!

To paraphrase, YES!!

[Technicolor Sparks]

Most of them have been to clubs before. Three of the guys in particular are pretty big party-goers. A few of my friends aren't big into drinking and partying, but they are all very confident and outgoing and seem really excited about tonight, whereas I'm a complete introvert!

[Reilly]

I think you should do it and live out Ian's youth.

ahh do it while you have the chance, because when you're older you won't care for them. Or maybe that's just age and perspective talking...

[i'maveryneatMonster.']

Look you can always try, it doesn't hurt to try and if you feel uncomfortable you can always say you're tired and go back home, who knows? Maybe you could have a very fun night. Just do whatever you feel like doing, whatever makes you feel comfortable, don't go if you feel forced cos then you will suffer every minute of it. I'm an introvert too, the very few times I accepted to go to a party/club it was annoying for me cos I practically felt like I had to go and I didn't have fun. Plus I don't really like the "OMGIMDRUNK" part of it.

But if you decide to go just enjoy yourself and don't drink too much :nice: Plus you could meet new people, which is always exciting.

[Technicolor Sparks]

Ok. I'm going to do it. :bigcry:

[Brent]

no

[chuck kottke]

Ok. I'm going to do it. :bigcry::hug:
Aww, release your inner child, loosen up, and just relax. :):flutterby::joker:

[Black Rose]

I find the most uncomfortable part of being in a nightclub is the stupidly loud music, so loud that you have to try and shout if you want to have a conversation with someone, and when it comes to ordering drinks. I've been on both sides of the bar in that way, and it's very hard to try and hear what the person is trying to order. (ok it's not in a nightclub, but in a mess with a band playing near you)

[Technicolor Sparks]

I hope there are cocktails at this club. I'm not really a fan of beer or shots.

[Empily]

Yes GO :wacky:

It might be a club full of idiots but its not like you're going by yourself, you have people to hang out and have a laugh with.

[LoryABjerre]

only go if you love dance and technos, and the people like fun party


my experience when I was young. just because I set myself to find a husband in a nightclub. :lol:
around me everyone said to me in this time "in these places nightclub need to meet people"

I hated dance music, but people said that I could dance like Madonna. but me not think.

I'm totally bored, in all the nightclubs . I preferred to listen and dance in my room with the songs of my favorite singers and bands at the time it was the best musics, not know U2 Pop

So go only if you have a good mood :)

Good experiance

[Black Rose]

Just watch your drinks in case someone tries to do something funny with them

[Empily]

^ yeah if you need to go pee or anything make sure you leave your drink with a trusted friend

[blue_girl]

ahh do it while you have the chance, because when you're older you won't care for them. Or maybe that's just age and perspective talking...

this

[MrLick]

Ok. I'm going to do it. :bigcry:

No drinks from strangers(creepy guys offering a coke if you say you don't drink) and watch your drink. Home by 12.

[blue_girl]

its always when you think you will have your worse night ever that you have fun :) just have fun and dont think too much if you are being awkard or not..

[Technicolor Sparks]

Haha my fifth grade teacher told us about three times a day that we had to watch our drinks at parties. We weren't even old enough to go to parties!
But his horror stories have pretty much scarred for me life, so I will be careful. :P

[Brent]

I was roofed once with a Tylenol PM

[Technicolor Sparks]

Really? Whoa!
That kind of thing really scares me, so I'm sure I will guard my drink with my life!

[Reilly]

This fear of your drinks being spiked is absolutely insane, maybe in a house party situation (possibly), but at a club? Think it through, you would have to drink the spiked drink, pass out, without your friends or anyone around noticing, be carried by the spiker in a caveman-like fashion, past all the other clubbers and bouncers and people on the street, be carried into a taxi with the driver having no idea what's going on, and then brought home for raep.

It's an incredibly rare and unlikely situation that the media picked up on several years ago and for some reason people are still really worried about. A girl probably has a better chance of being raped randomly walking home then via date rape drug.

[rainplay]

Yes, guard your drink..

And don't let desperate guys get you any drinks..

I'm too young to go to any nightclubs, but last party I went to, this guy got me a drink and told me he put barely any alcohol in it...Yeah that was a lie, I have no idea what he put in it, but I barely remember annnnything...

[MrLick]

This fear of your drinks being spiked is absolutely insane, maybe in a house party situation (possibly), but at a club? Think it through, you would have to drink the spiked drink, pass out, without your friends or anyone around noticing, be carried by the spiker in a caveman-like fashion, past all the other clubbers and bouncers and people on the street, be carried into a taxi with the driver having no idea what's going on, and then brought home for raep.

It's an incredibly rare and unlikely situation that the media picked up on several years ago and for some reason people are still really worried about. A girl probably has a better chance of being raped randomly walking home then via date rape drug.

It happens in the movies/tv so it's true. Don't accept drinks from Reilly

[Reilly]

God damnit now she's not going to accept my heppy drink. Thanks Dick.

[l0wxo2]

I was never really a night club person but i do go to one on occassion. It's definitely an experience. I usually have a good time with my friends when I go and I don't seem to worry about what everyone else is doing because I'm having fun. Hope you have fun if you go :D

[Reilly]

Everyone seems to be referencing 'the nightclub' as if it's one place, it depends on the club. Some clubs are fucking horrible, over packed, terribly fake people, other clubs are full of friendly people, enough room to move, etc.

[MrLick]

Club much?

[Petit Prince]

This fear of your drinks being spiked is absolutely insane, maybe in a house party situation (possibly), but at a club? Think it through, you would have to drink the spiked drink, pass out, without your friends or anyone around noticing, be carried by the spiker in a caveman-like fashion, past all the other clubbers and bouncers and people on the street, be carried into a taxi with the driver having no idea what's going on, and then brought home for raep.

It's an incredibly rare and unlikely situation that the media picked up on several years ago and for some reason people are still really worried about. A girl probably has a better chance of being raped randomly walking home then via date rape drug.

My friend's drink got spiked once. I have no idea how it happened, she was pretty much sober (we only had like two drinks) and it was just the two of us. I think it might have happened at the bar but I was with her when we got the drinks and neither of us saw anything. She locked herself in the toilet and I proper started freaking out because she was in there for like half an hour and I kept screeming her name but she didn't say anything. Someone eventually opened the door and it turned out that she had passed out. It was a very scary experience but she was fine in the end.

[Petit Prince]

Btw Technicolor Sparks (sorry I don't know your name), I'm not trying to put you off, I think you should go. I've been out many times and it's only ever happened once. Don't worry, most people aren't particularly good at dancing. I don't think anyone cares when you're going to a club, most people will be too drunk to notice anyway. Hope you have a good time with your friends!

[Brent]

Really? Whoa!
That kind of thing really scares me, so I'm sure I will guard my drink with my life!

I wasn't ACTUALLY roofed with a Tylenol PM.

[Kiame]

I guess so, yeah. It's something you should experience.

I can't stand the places though. Not for me.

[Prospekt.]

Go!

It's generally not my favorite thing to do either but it's fun every here and now!

[Italian Plastic]

Everyone seems to be referencing 'the nightclub' as if it's one place, it depends on the club. Some clubs are fucking horrible, over packed, terribly fake people, other clubs are full of friendly people, enough room to move, etc.

and some clubs are partly responsible for some of the best music ever made!

[Technicolor Sparks]

Ok, I'm back!
It was pretty fun. I was really shy and self-conscious for a while, but it wasn't too bad. My friend Felix kept telling me that I should just relax (not in a mean way), so I hope it wasn't really noticeable :(

There were a lot of creepy guys too, and three of them were particularily gropey. There was one guy who wouldn't leave me alone, so I ended up dancing with him for like 30 minutes. My friends were across the dance floor so they couldn't come rescue me! So that was a little uncomfortable...

Overall it was okay though. I'm glad I had the experience, and at least now I know that it is something I will only do occasionally haha!

[Brent]

YAY I WAS SO WORRIED

[LoryABjerre]

I deside to go to a singles bar, for Valentine's Day . I have no boyfriend no husband . it's like a nightclub.