More band stuff

[TheNextChris]

So my band had "practice" (3/4 practice, for the second time :thinking: ). This time, instead of 2 guitarists and a bassist, we had a power trio. We all got along fine, but one problem was that all my band mates wanted to do was Blink-182 and Green Day. :angry: Not that I don't like those bands (well, I sorta not like blink), but I wanted to do some other stuff, and tried to encourage them to play some Muse. All of the members are capable of that music, but my bassist refuses to because he thinks that "Muse is gay." Of course, right after he said that, Uprising started playing on our drummers iPhone. But, back on the topic, it feels like my bandmates aren't thinking, and want a Blink-182 rip off, like every single teenage american suburban band seems to be. Of course, the bassist thinks that Blink are more talented than Muse, and he only knows Knights of Cydonia (he's into punk and metal, btw). What songs should I send to them, and how can I convince them that only doing Blink covers is a bad thing? Thanks, Dan.

[Pseudonym]

Uh, tbh, quit now. This description sounds almost EXACTLY like my old band and that did not end well. If you find you are trying to convince each other what songs are good you either need to stop doing covers entirely or find yourselves a new band.

Of course you won't listen to me, because who in their right mind would quit a band just because some loony tune on a forum told him to? Just warning you, if you cannot work out these differences now they will not go away, and it will ruin the three of you.

[Destrokk]

I want to be in a band :sad:

[TheNextChris]

I just wish I could do that. Musicians, especially bassists, are hard to find. The only ones I know who like my kind of music are already in bands. Maybe it's time to get a drum kit and bass and go solo...

[Pseudonym]

I just wish I could do that. Musicians, especially bassists, are hard to find. The only ones I know who like my kind of music are already in bands. Maybe it's time to get a drum kit and bass and go solo...
Again, sounds just like my experiences. I had to stay with that band, there was no one else. And being in a band you come to hate is better than no band at all right? Wrong. I actually was much much happier when I did go 'solo' and just started doing acoustic work. And you know what? 6 months later I had found more musicians, and now I'm in a good band with people that I actually like, plus I have my 'solo' acoustic stuff on the side. Leaving my old band was one of the best decisions I ever made, even if it didn't seem like it at the time.

[TyM218]

leave, leave now

[TheNextChris]

There is a chance that things will clear up, they're generally reasonable people, but being in a band with someone can bring out their worst. So I'm gonna wait a little bit to see if things get better, and then if it fails, I'll just do what you said.

[QuestionsOfScience]

you should definitely leave.
I just left my band yesterday, because firstly we had a terrible rehearsal and everyone started messing around (and it's only gonna happen again), i found out my drummer smokes (we're all 14) and, nobody practiced.
I made them really angry, and my drummer and guitarist the most, with them constantly bothering me that "You broke 3 boys hearts" and my drummer saying "That was all I had". Bullcrap.

I say leave, get out of it now while you still can and this doesn't happen, and trust me, if you wait for much longer, by god, it will.

[eff-exx]

It's good to be in a band with different music influences. But if it's affecting the way the band is going and disturbing friendships and also practices becomes a jumble of 'what to play because we don't like the same band', then you should leave.

There are many other musicians out there to mix with, though it may take a while to find them, and a while could mean a long time. But if you don't feel comfortable in a band, leave. Before the shit gets deeper.
In the mean time, you could experiment music solo.

But this is your choice, so think it out carefully. Is it worth it being in a band that you don't feel comfortable in, or is it more worth it going solo?

[TheNextChris]

Ok, so what I'm thinking of doing is talking to my band mates about their vision of what they want the band to be. I already know my bassist really wants to do pop punk, which I sort of refuse to do. My guitarist feels the same as my bassist, but my drummer, even though he's pop punk oriented, will do anything. If I can't make any reasonable compromise, then I'm out. My past 2 bands (also my first 2) have been plagued by not being able to practice, and the drummer is in another band. So if I decide to quit, then I'll try to find places to find other local musicians. And this time, facebook won't count as a place (I already kinda knew the people, we just to know each other better through facebook), but I can use it to find places. I might want to become close friends with the people before starting a band, too.

@Questions of Science, wow , your drummer smokes. I don't blame you at all for quitting. That drummer sounds like a loser.