View Full Version : how do i get my ex-girlfriend to believe I have changed?
01-03-2009, 05:21 AM
Recently my girlfriend and I broke up, because of the way I was... and now that I have lost her, all I can think about is how much i need her. I have changed into what I know she needs. But i need a way of showing her. How do i show her that I can give her the relationship that she deserves?
Dont know what to say.... move on... its easy to say million times harder to do..........
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01-03-2009, 05:24 AM
if she can't love you for who you are then she's no good.
you can't change to satisfy people needs.
01-03-2009, 05:27 AM
well the thing is that i didn;t treat her as well as she treated me. And now all I want to do is make her happy.
01-03-2009, 05:55 AM
how have you changed?
01-03-2009, 06:04 AM
Sounds as though you now realize that you did not treat her in the most loving way possible. If you are convinced that you have changed, and would like for her to believe it, then enter into a conversation with her asking what it is that she wants, and what you can do in order to make it happen. But it is also important that she allow you to express what it is that you want. If both of you are listening, really listening to each other; then perhaps a healthy compromise can be reached.
The Mad Hatter
01-03-2009, 06:22 AM
01-03-2009, 08:56 AM
If you love her enough I'm sure there's something you can think of to make her take you back. Don't ask other people for inspiration- if it's meant to be with you two, then you should be able to come up with something perfect on your own that really shows her how much you've changed for her.
01-03-2009, 09:20 AM
How do you show her? You show her, mofo, or ya got no chance :lol:!
No really, often when a girlfriend breaks up with you because of the way you are, unless you actually really DO change into what she actually wants/start treating her better, she won't take you back. It's often generally because of either a) she doesn't like your personality or b) you don't treat her that well, which seems to be the case. And it's no use saying "I know that I've changed into what she needs", because you don't know, you think you know with this.
And you do not know how many times I have had guys that have treated me shittily have crawled back to me and said "I've changed, I'll show it to you" and slipped back into their previous bad habits. I learnt that the hard way, by giving a few too many second chances. You really need to show her you actually HAVE changed significantly or she won't take you back. Unless, of course, she is very nice and believes everyone deserves a second chance.
It's also no use US telling you how to show her you've changed, because otherwise that would be cheating, and you haven't in fact changed significantly enough.
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